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Woman is tired of her marriage or
boyfriend, or is having an affair and wants man gone, but
doesn't want to lose the kids, the house, the car, the bank
account, credit cards, etc. that she enjoys as a result of
the marriage or shacking up.
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She talks with an attorney, shelter
worker, victim's advocate, or similar parasite, who advise
her to take out a restraining order of file DV charges against
her husband or boyfriend. They also tell her what to say,
e.g., she is in "fear for her life," he is a "trained
killer' due to his military service, he abuses her, she is
suffering emotional harm, etc. Since perjury and subornation
of perjury are virtually never punished, any lies will do
and hearsay is admissible.
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Man is then arrested or thrown out
of his home, preferably without hearing or notice, never to
return.
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Since, by decree, he is branded as
dangerous and violent, it is in "the best interests of
his children" that he he have no, or very limited contact
and visitation with them. He certainly must not have primary
custody of them.
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Man naively thinks he has some rights
and civil liberties and that if he tells the truth the judge
will listen and things will get straightened out. Wrong again.
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His path will fork here. Most men
will believe the lies the DA tells them about DV, or the restraining
order violation, being simply a misdemeanor and take a plea
bargain. Wrong again, and he surrenders all rights to appeal,
to civil liberties, to professional licenses, security clearances,
to even rent an apartment. The outcome is the same if he takes
a bench trial before a judge, which is simply a long, slow
way of pleading guilty.
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A few will take the very wise course
of pleading not guilty and demanding a jury trial. While this
almost guarantees charges against him will eventually be dropped
or he will be acquitted, he is going to have to spend a lot
of money on an attorney. And finding a competent attorney
is searching for a needle in a haystack. His hiring an attorney
escalates the conflict and she is likely to get free legal
assistance, particularly if criminal charges are brought against
him. Nothing excites and enriches the "legal" profession
more than two feuding attorneys.
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He almost certainly loses his job
(~80% chance) due to the DV conviction, all the time he has
to spend in court, mental strain (PTSD is a given), loss of
security clearance, loss of license, etc.
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Any assets either he or she have probably
go to legal fees or survival. He lives in his car or with
relatives, or becomes homeless. He can't pay child support
because he is unemployed but that doesn't stop the court from
"imputing" an income based on what the judge thinks
he should be earning. When he can't pay he is placed in debtor's
prison as a "deadbeat dad." Many times his only
way out is suicide.
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After taking everything she can from
him, she shacks up with other men, who may really be abusive
either to her or any children she has. In the meantime any
medical or mental problems she has go untreated as, obviously,
everything is the fault of her ex and she is fine.
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The kids want Dad and become rebellious.
She can't handle them and child abuse or neglect begins because
there isn't any money. "Child Protective Service (CPS)"
becomes involved. Of course no redfem CPS agent in her left
mind would ever consider letting Dad take the kids. So, all
too often, the kids end up in foster care, often a recipe
for even more abuse and neglect. Don't look for many future
scientists and engineers to emerge from kids who've been through
this.
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With 50% of all marriages ending in
divorce, the only defense an intelligent man currently has
is to not marry or sire any children.
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